Age of Aisha
Did you know that Muhammed married to one of his wives when she was 6 and consumated the marriage when she was 9 ?
Muslims love to dance around this argument, but here is comprehensive list of Islamic sources proving this point :
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Claim : Many Muslims argue that ayisha was older than 9 when muhammed married her and older than 6 when he molested her.
My response :
A.Hadiths from Aisha about her age
B.Hadiths from Aisha showing that she was not pubescent.
C.Verse from quran on how to divorce your wife if she is a child.
D.Tafsirs of those verses
E.Anwers o common excuses
Hadiths Regarding Aisha’s Age :
*These hadiths are from Sahih Bukhari, (Sahih = authentic in Arabic) (Bukhari = Name of the guy who collected these hadiths)
*The chain of narration is strong for two reasons ;
1.The narrator is Aisha herself.
Volume 5, Book 58, Number 234:
2.Quran also says ;
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33:6 The Prophet is closer to the believers than their selves, and his wives are (as) their mothers. And the owners of kinship are closer one to another in the ordinance of Allah than (other) believers and the fugitives (who fled from Mecca) except that ye should do kindness to your friends. This is written in the Book (of nature)
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33:32 O ye wives of the Prophet! Ye are not like any other women. If ye keep your duty (to Allah), then be not soft of speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease aspire (to you), but utter customary speech
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33:33 And stay quietly in your houses, and make not a dazzling display, like that of the former Times of Ignorance; and establish regular Prayer, and give regular Charity; and obey Allah and His Messenger. And Allah only wishes to remove all abomination from you, ye members of the Family, and to make you pure and spotless.
SwordofAllah87 claiming that people who deny what Aisha says are KAFEERS and not Muslims ;
I have already posted the authentic hadiths on that matter,now let’s see the supporting hadiths :
List of Sahih Hadiths :
Sahih Bukhari :
Sahih Muslim :
Sunan Abu Dawud
Ask him these questions and right them down ;
when did he make his message public answer: 43
How old was muhammed when khadija died ? answer 50
How many years after that he married aisha ? answer 3 years
so muhammed married aisha at 53 and he spread islam at 43,…10 years gap
so from the time muhammed made his message pubic to marrige to aisha there is a 10 year gap, so if aisha was older than 10 then she could have remebered a time when her parents were non muslims but we read ,
Sahih Bukhari
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Volume 5, Book 58, Number 245:
Narrated ‘Aisha:
(the wife of the Prophet) I never remembered my parents believing in any religion other than the true religion (i.e. Islam), and (I don’t remember) a single day passing without our being visited by Allah’s Apostle in the morning and in the evening. When the Muslims were put to test (i.e. troubled by the pagans),….
Muhammed recived the first message when he was 40, 10 years later khadija died.He was single for three years then he married aisha at 53 years of age
Even More Consistent Hadiths :
1.Muhammed died at the age of 63 ,and married aisha at 53. (9 years later)
so if he married aisha when she was nine, you would expect her to be 18 when muhammed died.
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Bukhari
Volume 5, Book 58, Number 242:
Narrated Ibn Abbas:
Allah’s Apostle started receiving the Divine Inspiration at the age of forty. Then he stayed in Mecca for thirteen years, receiving the Divine Revelation. Then he was ordered to migrate and he lived as an Emigrant for ten years and then died at the age of sixty-three (years).
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Sahih Muslim
‘A’isha (Allah be pleased with her) reported that Allah’s Apostle (may peace be upon him) married her when she was seven years old, and he was taken to his house as a bride when she was nine, and her dolls were with her; and when he (the Holy Prophet) died she was eighteen years old.
Aisha owned dolls (which as we know is NOT allowed in islam (if you have reached puberty)
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Sahih Muslim
‘A’isha reported that she used to play with dolls in the presence of Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) and when her playmates came to her they left (the house) because they felt shy of Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him), whereas Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) sent them to her.
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Narrated Aisha, Ummul Mu’minin:
When the Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) arrived after the expedition to Tabuk or Khaybar (the narrator is doubtful), the draught raised an end of a curtain which was hung in front of her store-room, revealing some dolls which belonged to her.
He asked: What is this? She replied: My dolls. Among them he saw a horse with wings made of rags, and asked: What is this I see among them? She replied: A horse. He asked: What is this that it has on it? She replied: Two wings. He asked: A horse with two wings? She replied: Have you not heard that Solomon had horses with wings? She said: Thereupon the Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) laughed so heartily that I could see his molar teeth.
Description of Aisha from herself and other when she married :
A long hadith,Muhammed is asking people about aisha,after he suspected that she has cheated on him :
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Sahih Bukhari
Volume 3, Book 48, Number 829: and
Volume 6, Book 60, Number 274:
Narrated Aisha:
…….On that Allah’s Apostle called Buraira and said, ‘O Burair. Did you ever see anything which roused your suspicions about her?’ Buraira said, ‘No, by Allah Who has sent you with the Truth, I have never seen in her anything faulty except that she is a girl of immature age, who sometimes sleeps and leaves the dough for the goats to eat.’
……I was a young girl and did not have much knowledge of the Quran. I said. ‘I know, by Allah, that you have listened to what people are saying and that has been planted in your minds and you have taken it as a truth.
Evidence from other HADITHS :
Sahih Bukhari
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Narrated Sahl bin Sad:
While we were sitting in the company of the Prophet a woman came to him and presented herself (for marriage) to him. The Prophet looked at her, lowering his eyes and raising them, but did not give a reply. One of his companions said, “Marry her to me O Allah’s Apostle!” The Prophet asked (him), “Have you got anything?” He said, “I have got nothing.” The Prophet said, “Not even an iron ring?” He Sad, “Not even an iron ring, but I will tear my garment into two halves and give her one half and keep the other half.” The Prophet; said, “No. Do you know some of the Quran (by heart)?” He said, “Yes.” The Prophet said, “Go, I have agreed to marry her to you with what you know of the Qur’an (as her Mahr).” ‘And for those who have no courses (i.e. they are still immature). (65.4) And the ‘Iddat (the time you have to wait before divorcring your wife) for the girl before puberty is three months (in the above Verse).
Tafsirs :
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Such of your women as have passed the age of monthly courses, for them the prescribed period, if ye have any doubts, is three months, and for those who have no courses (it is the same): for those who carry (life within their wombs), their period is until they deliver their burdens: and for those who fear Allah, He will make their path easy.
Surah 65 (Talaq) which means Divorce talks about ,obviously, divorcing your wife and how you have to wait 3 months after her menstruation before divorcing her.Ayah 5 talks about divorcing women whose menstruation has stopped due to her older age and the young, who have not reached the years of menstruation.
Tafsir Ibn Kathir (most widely accepted Tafsir in Islamic World)
The `Iddah of Those in Menopause and Those Who do not have Menses
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Allah the Exalted clarifies the waiting period of the woman in menopause. And that is the one whose menstruation has stopped due to her older age. Her `Iddah is three months instead of the three monthly cycles for those who menstruate, which is based upon the Ayah in (Surat) Al-Baqarah. [see 2:228] The same for the young, who have not reached the years of menstruation. Their `Iddah is three months like those in menopause. This is the meaning of His saying;
http://www.tafsir.com/default.asp?sid=65&tid=54196
Tafsir al-Jalalayan (another crediable tafsir)
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And [as for] those of your women who (read allā’ī or allā’i in both instances) no longer expect to menstruate, if you have any doubts, about their waiting period, their prescribed [waiting] period shall be three months, and [also for] those who have not yet menstruated, because of their young age, their period shall [also] be three months — both cases apply to other than those whose spouses have died; for these [latter] their period is prescribed in the verse: they shall wait by themselves for four months and ten [days] [Q. 2:234]. And those who are pregnant, their term, the conclusion of their prescribed [waiting] period if divorced or if their spouses be dead, shall be when they deliver. And whoever fears God, He will make matters ease for him, in this world and in the Hereafter.
http://www.altafsir.com and search for 65:4 and 5
Tanwîr al-Miqbâs min Tafsîr Ibn ‘Abbâs
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(And for such of your women as despair of menstruation) because of old age, (if ye doubt) about their waiting period, (their period (of waiting) shall be three months) upon which another man asked: “O Messenger of Allah! What about the waiting period of those who do not have menstruation because they are too young?” (along with those who have it not) because of young age, their waiting period is three months. Another man asked: “what is the waiting period for those women who are pregnant?” (And for those with child) i.e. those who are pregnant, (their period) their waiting period (shall be till they bring forth their burden) their child. (And whosoever keepeth his duty to Allah) and whoever fears Allah regarding what he commands him, (He maketh his course easy for him) He makes his matter easy; and it is also said this means: He will help him to worship Him well.
http://www.altafsir.com and search for 65:4 and 5
Tafsir Asbab Al-Nuzul by Al-Wahidi
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(And for such of your women as despair of menstruation…) [65:4]. Said Muqatil: “When the verse (Women who are divorced shall wait, keeping themselves apart…), Kallad ibn al-Nu‘man ibn Qays al-Ansari said: ‘O Messenger of Allah, what is the waiting period of the woman who does not menstruate and the woman who has not menstruated yet? And what is the waiting period of the pregnant woman?’ And so Allah, exalted is He, revealed this verse”. Abu Ishaq al-Muqri’ informed us> Muhammad ibn ‘Abd Allah ibn Hamdun> Makki ibn ‘Abdan> Abu’l-Azhar> Asbat ibn Muhammad> Mutarrif> Abu ‘Uthman ‘Amr ibn Salim who said: “When the waiting period for divorced and widowed women was mentioned in Surah al-Baqarah, Ubayy ibn Ka‘b said: ‘O Messenger of Allah, some women of Medina are saying: there are other women who have not been mentioned!’ He asked him: ‘And who are they?’ He said: ‘Those who are too young [such that they have not started menstruating yet], those who are too old [whose menstruation has stopped] and those who are pregnant’. And so this verse (And for such of your women as despair of menstruation…) was revealed”.
Sahih Bukhari
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Narrated Sahl bin Sad:
While we were sitting in the company of the Prophet a woman came to him and presented herself (for marriage) to him. The Prophet looked at her, lowering his eyes and raising them, but did not give a reply. One of his companions said, “Marry her to me O Allah’s Apostle!” The Prophet asked (him), “Have you got anything?” He said, “I have got nothing.” The Prophet said, “Not even an iron ring?” He Sad, “Not even an iron ring, but I will tear my garment into two halves and give her one half and keep the other half.” The Prophet; said, “No. Do you know some of the Quran (by heart)?” He said, “Yes.” The Prophet said, “Go, I have agreed to marry her to you with what you know of the Qur’an (as her Mahr).” ‘And for those who have no courses (i.e. they are still immature). (65.4) And the ‘Iddat for the girl before puberty is three months (in the above Verse).
And the ‘Iddat for the girl before puberty is three months (in the above Verse).
http://www.usc.edu/dept/MSA/fundamental … 2.sbt.html
It’s OK to marry prepubescence orphan (evidence form the Quran and Tafsirs)
Some times muslims want to use this verse to shows that marrying children is not allowed in Islam ;
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004:002To orphans restore their property (When they reach their age), nor substitute (your) worthless things for (their) good ones; and devour not their substance (by mixing it up) with your own. For this is indeed a great sin
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Make trial of orphans until they reach the age of marriage; if then ye find sound judgment in them, release their property to them; but consume it not wastefully, nor in haste against their growing up. If the guardian is well-off, Let him claim no remuneration, but if he is poor, let him have for himself what is just and reasonable. When ye release their property to them, take witnesses in their presence: But all-sufficient is Allah in taking account.
Few problems with this verse :
First of all it doesn’t specify age of marriage, it’s about when you should give the inheritance to orphans.
and as you can read it says ;
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Make trial of orphans until they reach the age of marriage; if then ye find sound judgment in them
since the it says IF THEN , age of marriage has nothing to do with being sound in judgment.
It’s about male orphans not the girls.
The verse concerning the FEMALE orphans ;
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YUSUFALI: They ask thy instruction concerning the women say: Allah doth instruct you about them: And (remember) what hath been rehearsed unto you in the Book, concerning the orphans of women to whom ye give not the portions prescribed, and yet whom ye desire to marry, as also concerning the children who are weak and oppressed: that ye stand firm for justice to orphans. There is not a good deed which ye do, but Allah is well-acquainted therewith.
Tafsir of That verse :
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The Ruling Concerning Female Orphans
Al-Bukhari recorded that `A’ishah said about the Ayah,
[وَيَسْتَفْتُونَكَ فِى النِّسَآءِ قُلِ اللَّهُ يُفْتِيكُمْ فِيهِنَّ]
(They ask your instruction concerning women. Say, “Allah instructs you about them…) until
and few lines later it shows that it’s possible for caretakers and guardians to MARRY the orphans ,which is more evidence for my argument.
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(whom you desire to marry…) “It is about the man who is taking care of a female orphan, being her caretaker and inheritor. Her money is joined with his money to such an extent, that she shares with him even the branch of a date that he has. So he likes (for material gain) to marry her himself, and hates to marry her to another man who would have a share in his money, on account of her share in his money.
http://www.tafsir.com/default.asp?sid=4&tid=12381
supporting Hadith
Sahih Bukhari
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Narrated ‘Ursa:
that he asked ‘Aisha about the Statement of Allah: ‘If you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry (other) women of your choice, two or three or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one, or (the captives) that your right hands possess. That will be nearer to prevent you from doing injustice.’ (4.3) ‘Aisha said, “O my nephew! (This Verse has been revealed in connection with) an orphan girl under the guardianship of her guardian who is attracted by her wealth and beauty and intends to marry her with a Mahr less than what other women of her standard deserve. So they (such guardians) have been forbidden to marry them unless they do justice to them and give them their full Mahr, and they are ordered to marry other women instead of them.“
Dealing with the most common apologetic arguments :
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Morality of Muhammad’s time is different from what we have now, traditions were different so you can’t judge him .
well,based on this verse muhammed received his wisdom from Allah ;
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3:164 Allah did confer a great favour on the believers when He sent among them a messenger from among themselves, rehearsing unto them the Signs of Allah, sanctifying them, and instructing them in Scripture and Wisdom, while, before that, they had been in manifest error
so either :
a.in Allah’s wisdom it’s ok to marry 6 year olds and have sex with them when they are nine.
b.This verse is fabricated,which makes the Quran wrong.
c.Muhammed marrige to Aisha (mother of all believrs was a mistake)
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Abu Bakr,or other people, asked muhammed to marry Aisha
Not only it was Muhammed who asked abu bakr for the marrige :
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Volume 7, Book 62, Number 18:
Narrated ‘Ursa:
The Prophet asked Abu Bakr for ‘Aisha’s hand in marriage. Abu Bakr said “But I am your brother.” The Prophet said, “You are my brother in Allah’s religion and His Book, but she (Aisha) is lawful for me to marry.”
and even if Abu Bakr asked for the marriage , Muhammed could say no.
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Marrige was for political reasons
Then why Muhammed had sex with Aisha,when she was nine ? , a political move ?
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The word in 65:4 (NISA) is referring to women,so it can’t be regarding the infants ;
Let’s see what female infants are called in the quran ;
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YUSUFALI: They ask thy instruction concerning the women say: Allah doth instruct you about them: And (remember) what hath been rehearsed unto you in the Book, concerning the orphans of women to whom ye give not the portions prescribed, and yet whom ye desire to marry, as also concerning the children who are weak and oppressed: that ye stand firm for justice to orphans. There is not a good deed which ye do, but Allah is well-acquainted therewith.
ويستفتونك في النساء قل الله يفتيكم فيهن ومايتلى عليكم في الكتاب في يتامى النساء اللاتي لاتؤتونهن ماكتب لهن وترغبون ان تنكحوهن والمستضعفين من الولدان وان تقوموا لليتامى بالقسط وماتفعلوا من خير فان الله كان به عليما
and meaning of the word LAM means never before
as seen in verse
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فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ فَرِجَالًا أَوْ رُكْبَانًا ۖ فَإِذَا أَمِنتُمْ فَاذْكُرُوا اللَّهَ كَمَا عَلَّمَكُم مَّا لَمْ تَكُونُوا تَعْلَمُونَ
2:239But if you are in danger, [pray] walking or riding; [228] and when you are again secure, bear God in mind – since it is He who taught you what you did not previously know.
Fatwas :
Islam Online
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Islam does not specify a certain minimal age for marriage; rather, it placed a certain age for shouldering religious obligations in general. This age is the age of puberty, either by natural sign (the ability to ejaculate semen for a boy and menstruation for a girl) or by reaching the age of 15 lunar years. However, reaching this age is not necessary for validating the marriage contract, for it is up to the guardians to conduct marriages before [the bride or groom or both] have reached this age.
http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/Sate … 9503547512
IslamWeb
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As regards, the age of getting married for a girl, it is when she becomes physically fit for sexual intercourse. However, she can get married before this time, but the husband should not consummate the marriage with her unless she becomes physically fit.
It is confirmed in Sahih Al Bukhari that the Prophet ( sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention )) married Aisha, may Allaah be pleased with her when she was 6 years of age, and consummated the marriage with her when she was 9 years of age.
The guardian of a girl should take the initiative to marry her off if he finds a suitable person who has the required characteristics that the Prophet ( sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention )) illustrated when he said: If any man whose religion and character are satisfactory proposes to marry one of your women, marry him, otherwise there will be great mischief and corruption on earth”. (Al-Thirmidhi and others).
http://quran.islamweb.net/ver2/Fatwa/Sh … on=FatwaId
IslamQA
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Question :
Is it acceptable to marry a girl who has not yet started her menses?
I have not yet reached the age of puberty. Is it correct that a girl could get married before her menses start, or is that just a traditional myth?.
Praise be to Allaah.
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Marriage to a young girl before she reaches puberty is permissible according to sharee’ah, and it was narrated that there was scholarly consensus on this point.
http://www.islamqa.com/en/ref/12708
stuff to add ;
http://www.usc.edu/dept/MSA/fundamental … l#019.4460
